He had a WIFE?!



So, here we go. No, this is not clickbait.

This is a story that begins, like most other bad dating stories, online. I was in a chatroom, partly for research, partly for my own enjoyment. There is something so nostalgic about a good chatroom, takes me right back.

So, I began private messaging with this guy. He is a little older, but that has never put me off. He says he finds me interesting and would like to get to know me more. I think that sounds delightful. I don’t put any pressure on it. I want to live in the moment.

So, we are chatting online, and then we begin talking on the phone. He is a well off guy, it seems. With a good job, that requires him to travel. Already, alarm bells are going, but not the “he has a wife” alarm bells, but more the “he’s a catfish” bells.

But alas, he sends me evidence that he is real (yes, I am that crazy) and I think there is potential there. It is so rare to speak to someone who takes the dominant role in the conversation, who is asking you questions, rather than throwing your questions back at you.

I cannot wait to meet this guy. I put no pressure on myself and when he offers me to come for a drink, I accept.

Now, the real alarm bells start ringing when he asked me to meet him at his hotel. Nice hotel, but hotel nonetheless. I said to him that I didn’t want to rush things and he seemed to understand. This was all so new for me, so I was excited.

But, there was that nagging voice in the back of my mind, telling me that something wasn’t right, that this date was not going to happen. And then I got it, the “I need to tell you something” message.

You have to understand that the last time I got the “I need to tell you something” message, it was from my ex, telling me that he was a cocaine addict. So, this kind of message has put me on edge ever since.

He tells me that he needs to tell me something about himself, and hopes that we can keep us in “another world”. Of course, now I know. I am just waiting for him to say it.

He says that he has a wife, there are problems, but he is married. As if saying that there were problems in the marriage was going to make a difference! He says that he hopes that we can still meet up. But I know now that there is no way.

I have never been one to judge, but cheating is where I draw the line. I will never consciously be a part of cheating. It is not only my own abhorrence of it. I have been cheated on and I know how awful that feels. I believe in karma, and if I were to have knowingly gone on a date with a married man, I know that it would come round to bite me in the booty.

So, I am sorry to his wife, because I am sure he will go searching for someone else. I am sorry to all the wives out there who have husbands doing this kind of thing. I am also sorry to the husbands, because I am sure that wives do it too. But I am also sorry to the people who enter into these situations without knowing that they are being a mistress.

I was lucky enough to not begin this, but it has taken a knock on my confidence where men are concerned. I understand that not all men are like this, but I shall definitely be trusting the nagging voice in the back of my head in the future.

Has anything like this happened to you before?

Until next time,
Stay Peachy,
Paige xx